Fearless Friday: My Summer Skincare Mindset Shift

There’s this moment, sometime in your 40s—maybe a little before, maybe a little after—where you start to look in the mirror and see the past. Not in a bad way. Just... honestly.

For me, I see the years I spent chasing the sun. Slathered in oil. Baking poolside. Coming back from trips glowing—and not the kind of glow we market now. The “burnt toast, but make it bronze” glow. And back then, I loved how I looked. I felt beautiful.

But here’s the truth: I never stopped to ask if I felt healthy.

Now, as I’m staring down the second half of life (and yes, I’m almost 50), I’ve started asking different questions. Not just about what looks good—but about what feels good. What’s sustainable. What’s going to support me in showing up for my kids, for myself, and for the life I’m still building.

Because I finally believe I deserve that. I deserve to feel strong. To feel clear. To feel radiant—not for the world, not for social media, not for the version of me 20 years ago—but for me.

The Shift

I used to think “anti-aging” meant erasing things. Wrinkles. Sun spots. The evidence of time.

Now, it means:

• being present.

• nourishing myself.

• Making peace with the skin I’ve lived in.

I still love the way a sun-kissed glow looks. I’ll probably always chase that warmth. But now I’m aware of the balance. I wear the hat. I find the shade. I know the sun feeds my soul—but I also know I need to protect the skin I’m in if I want to be around, active, and energized for the years ahead.

It’s not about chasing youth. It’s about choosing wellness. It’s about finally caring enough to put myself on my own list.

The Truth?

I’m still learning. Still unlearning. Still figuring out what my skin needs now. Some days, it’s hydration. Some days, it’s forgiveness. Some days, it’s just a damn nap.

But I’ve stopped thinking of skincare—or self-care—as something extra. It’s not indulgent. It’s not a luxury. It’s a declaration: I’m worth the effort.

So if you’re reading this and you’re feeling behind, or confused, or unsure where to even start—I see you. I am you.

We don’t need perfect. We don’t need 22-step routines. We just need honesty, intention, and a little kindness toward ourselves. That’s the shift. And trust me—it looks so good on you.

Just One Small Step

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