FEARLESS FRIDAY: Presence Over Perfection - In Life and Skincare
Jul 18
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by Amanda Martin
“I used to perform for approval. Now I protect my peace.”
For most of my life, I’ve poured myself into my work—not just to succeed, but to over-succeed. I thought if I could just get every detail right, every email perfect, every target crushed, I’d prove my worth.
And for a long time, I did. I crushed deadlines, pulled off miracles, made it all look effortless. But the truth? It wasn’t effortless. It was exhausting.
“Caring deeply is powerful—but perfectionism can be a prison.”
No one was putting that pressure on me. I was doing it to myself. Why? Because I believed that my value was in the performance. In how flawlessly I showed up. Until I hit a wall—and life forced me to re-evaluate everything.
I was going through a divorce. I was guiding my child through a life transition. I was buying and renovating a house. I was looking for a new job.
At one point, I realized—I simply didn’t have the energy to perform anymore. There just wasn’t enough of me to go around. And honestly? That realization was freeing.
“I stopped performing out of necessity—but I stayed grounded by choice.”
Now, I prioritize what truly matters: My health. My family. My peace. And that means some days, I don’t sweat the targets. I don’t obsess over whether the subject line was catchy enough. I show up with intention, not perfection.
It also means I don’t always show up with makeup—or a polished response. I trust in my experience, in my intuition, in the work I’ve already done. When I walk into a keynote or a media interview now, I don’t rehearse approval—I show up in confidence.
Because I’ve learned: when you trust yourself, you don’t have to perform. You just get to be.
So where does skincare come in?
Honestly, skincare used to feel like part of the performance too. One more thing I had to “get right.” Now? It’s a quiet, grounding ritual. It’s how I say, “I see you. I’m taking care of you. You're worth it and you matter.”
I don’t chase trends or 17-step routines. I use what works. I keep it simple. I let it be a moment of care instead of correction.
“Skincare is no longer a mask—it’s a love letter to myself.”
Tell Me This:
Have you chosen presence over perfection (in life and skincare) too? What are you choosing to show up for these days?
Drop it in the comments—or send this to someone who needs a reminder that she doesn’t have to earn her rest, her joy, or her reflection.
Because we’re not here to perform. We’re here to live.
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